Written on the 5th of March 2015 by Rachel Quilty, Personal Brand Strategist
50 Shades of Personal Branding
By now you've heard about or watched the recently released first instalment of the Fifty Shades Trilogy - Fifty Shades of Grey? Before you read on I offer a warning with this article, some of the contents maybe a little provocative but not too x rated - read at your own risk .
A great deal of negative commentary surrounded the release of Fifty Shades of Grey, specifically about the lack lustre love scenes. Many people asked where was the erotica??
If you haven't seen the film, I am sure you'll be shocked at the volume of nudity unless you were anticipating a movie with a XXX rating rather than R.
And well, if you've read the books you'll know firstly, a lot of the expected erotica is in the next book and secondly, the book series is not all about sex. All be it, there are a number of extremely steamy scenes within the pages of the book that had over 80 million readers fanning themselves.
People are shocked when I say the Fifty Shades series is not all about sex. I think the books are about determining your personal brand values and boundaries; understanding the psychology behind a healthy self identity; and ultimately recognising we are all worthy of love. Let me know your thoughts once I've explained my rationale below.
Personal branding is about finding clarity, about and within yourself. Removing or reducing the shades of grey and becoming crystal clear about who you are and what your mission is. Fifty shades of grey is where most people dwell - unclear and unsure of who they are, what they represent and where they're going.
The fifty shades line is significant. The frustrated revelation "Because I'm fifty shades of #$@!ed-up, Anastasia" is voiced by Christian Grey. His dark desires and lifestyle stem from a broken, traumatic childhood where control becomes paramount and disturbingly confused with childhood memories and experiences.
Anastasia however, after a conscious decision to taste the temptations of the dark side, retreats from the darkness; establishes her boundaries reinforcing her values and personal limitations. These measures intrinsically force Christian to question his values, what is important to him and the future expression of his love.
"This is a man in need. His fear is naked and obvious, but he's lost. . . Somewhere in his darkness.
His eyes wide and bleak and tortured. I can soothe him. Join him briefly in the darkness and bring him into the light." Anastasia Steele E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey
Each of us will be tempted, tested by trials and tribulations and forced to determine and maintain our values - what is important to us.
"We're coming near to the end of the bridge, and the road is once more bathed in the neon light of the street lamps so his face is intermittently in the light and the dark. And it's such a fitting metaphor. This man, whom I once thought of as a romantic hero, a brave shining white knightor the dark knight, as he said. He's not a hero; he's a man with serious, deep emotional flaws, and he's dragging me into the dark. Can I not guide him into the light?" Anastasia E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey
This is at the heart of personal branding. Our brand is strengthened by our strong sense of self and our clear understanding of our own self identity.
Within our training series - Brand Yourself the Authority we case study the Fifty Shades Brand, so you can imagine we have a lot fun, laughs and red cheek moments (no palm-twitching pun intended). We look at the characters, the author, the brand attributes and the erotic brand empire which is Fifty Shades of Grey.
This article is not to discuss the brand attributes of Fifty Shades or the lifestyles reflected or its moral fibre but to provoke your thinking, like the book. In your life where are your Fifty Shades of Grey? Where is your area of calmity? Where is your area of clarity? What are your personal brand values? What or who may be tempting you to step away from your true self or your true calling? Where are your brand boundaries? What are your hard limits? Where have these been compromised? What can you do to move into the light?
"I don't have a philosophy as such. Maybe a guiding principle, Carnegie's A man who acquires the ability to take full possession of his own mind may take possession of anything else to which he is justly entitled.' I'm very singular, driven. I like control... of myself and those around me." "You sound like a control freak." The words are out of my mouth before I can stop them. "Oh, I exercise control in all things, Miss Steele," he says without a trace of humor in his smile." E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey
I often say our spotlight is in our story, in our shame. "There's a very fine line between pleasure and pain. They are two sides of the same coin, one not existing without the other." E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey. Christian Grey's fears, subsequent lifestyle and personal journey are what rivets the audience as he struggles towards the light. While Anastasia Steele's concise conscious consideration of her choices provokes our own internal debate about saying no, resisting temptation and remaining true to ourselves. Understanding your strengths and weakness is invalable to your brand and it is often said that your greatest strength is also your greatest weakness. Case in point, Christian Grey's self control has made him financially successful while also manifesting in a darker issue, which he himself recognises and hence his comment about being fifty shades.
Finding your true self and your personal strengths is often the journey exposed as we establish and build our personal brand. Discovering and creating your personal brand is simply revisiting the foundations of your brand, your personal and professional values and establishing a blueprint for your personal brand growth.
"This is all I know, too. Perhaps together we can chart a new course." E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey
Copyright permission: You have permission to use this article by respecting the copyright by publishing the entire article as it is with no changes and by agreeing to include the above reference at the end of the article, or where you quote the author in which case please include the authors name and company name. In the event you wish to use any or all of this content please advise Jump the Q.
The brand Fifty Shades of Grey and all quotes of EL James, Fifty Shades of Grey remain the property of EL James and associated brands.
About the Author:
Rachel Quilty is a Personal Branding Strategist. She is also known as the "Authority" on Personal Branding within Australia.
Rachel is the owner and CEO of Jump the Q Inc, a Personal Brand consulting firm with offices in Brisbane as well as in Las Vegas, in the US.
Rachel is also the Author of the book, 'Brand Yourself: How to design, build and position your personal brand' which is also now listed on Amazon.
Rachel regularly speaks on the importance of personal branding and strategic brand management. She assists her students and clients around the world to leverage their professional profile and expertise to establish their personal brand as the authority and recognised leader within their industry.
Rachel regularly speaks at seminars, conferences and workshops on personal branding, professional image and developing your signature brand. She has presented at Bond University, Gr iffith University Business School, Ernst & Young, Westfield, NSAA; conferences in Las Vegas, Hawaii, Tasmania, Gold Coast and Expos in Brisbane.
Rachel has also been featured in Australia on the Today show as well various national radio programs including 4BC & ABC. She recently featured in the Australian Institute of Management magazine and is regularly featured in popular magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Cleo, Marie Claire and national newspapers include the Courier Mail, Sun Herald and the Weekend Australian.
Rachel made a splash in the USA with a recent interview on Voice America Radio hosted by Personal Finance Guru Jordon E Goodman the author of a dozen best sellers and is a regular on CNN and The View. Rachel also recently spoke in Las Vegas at the Ultimate Joint Venture Boot Camp with some of the most prominent speakers in the world.
Media Contact:
Rachel Quilty
Brand Strategist
Jump the Q
web: www.jumptheq.com.au
Please email questions or story angle and a schedule call for interview.
Written on the 5th of March 2015 by Rachel Quilty, Personal Brand Strategist
50 Shades of Personal Branding
By now you've heard about or watched the recently released first instalment of the Fifty Shades Trilogy - Fifty Shades of Grey? Before you read on I offer a warning with this article, some of the contents maybe a little provocative but not too x rated - read at your own risk .
A great deal of negative commentary surrounded the release of Fifty Shades of Grey, specifically about the lack lustre love scenes. Many people asked where was the erotica??
If you haven't seen the film, I am sure you'll be shocked at the volume of nudity unless you were anticipating a movie with a XXX rating rather than R.
And well, if you've read the books you'll know firstly, a lot of the expected erotica is in the next book and secondly, the book series is not all about sex. All be it, there are a number of extremely steamy scenes within the pages of the book that had over 80 million readers fanning themselves.
People are shocked when I say the Fifty Shades series is not all about sex. I think the books are about determining your personal brand values and boundaries; understanding the psychology behind a healthy self identity; and ultimately recognising we are all worthy of love. Let me know your thoughts once I've explained my rationale below.
Personal branding is about finding clarity, about and within yourself. Removing or reducing the shades of grey and becoming crystal clear about who you are and what your mission is. Fifty shades of grey is where most people dwell - unclear and unsure of who they are, what they represent and where they're going.
The fifty shades line is significant. The frustrated revelation "Because I'm fifty shades of #$@!ed-up, Anastasia" is voiced by Christian Grey. His dark desires and lifestyle stem from a broken, traumatic childhood where control becomes paramount and disturbingly confused with childhood memories and experiences.
Anastasia however, after a conscious decision to taste the temptations of the dark side, retreats from the darkness; establishes her boundaries reinforcing her values and personal limitations. These measures intrinsically force Christian to question his values, what is important to him and the future expression of his love.
"This is a man in need. His fear is naked and obvious, but he's lost. . . Somewhere in his darkness.
His eyes wide and bleak and tortured. I can soothe him. Join him briefly in the darkness and bring him into the light." Anastasia Steele E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey
Each of us will be tempted, tested by trials and tribulations and forced to determine and maintain our values - what is important to us.
"We're coming near to the end of the bridge, and the road is once more bathed in the neon light of the street lamps so his face is intermittently in the light and the dark. And it's such a fitting metaphor. This man, whom I once thought of as a romantic hero, a brave shining white knightor the dark knight, as he said. He's not a hero; he's a man with serious, deep emotional flaws, and he's dragging me into the dark. Can I not guide him into the light?" Anastasia E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey
This is at the heart of personal branding. Our brand is strengthened by our strong sense of self and our clear understanding of our own self identity.
Within our training series - Brand Yourself the Authority we case study the Fifty Shades Brand, so you can imagine we have a lot fun, laughs and red cheek moments (no palm-twitching pun intended). We look at the characters, the author, the brand attributes and the erotic brand empire which is Fifty Shades of Grey.
This article is not to discuss the brand attributes of Fifty Shades or the lifestyles reflected or its moral fibre but to provoke your thinking, like the book. In your life where are your Fifty Shades of Grey? Where is your area of calmity? Where is your area of clarity? What are your personal brand values? What or who may be tempting you to step away from your true self or your true calling? Where are your brand boundaries? What are your hard limits? Where have these been compromised? What can you do to move into the light?
"I don't have a philosophy as such. Maybe a guiding principle, Carnegie's A man who acquires the ability to take full possession of his own mind may take possession of anything else to which he is justly entitled.' I'm very singular, driven. I like control... of myself and those around me." "You sound like a control freak." The words are out of my mouth before I can stop them. "Oh, I exercise control in all things, Miss Steele," he says without a trace of humor in his smile." E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey
I often say our spotlight is in our story, in our shame. "There's a very fine line between pleasure and pain. They are two sides of the same coin, one not existing without the other." E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey. Christian Grey's fears, subsequent lifestyle and personal journey are what rivets the audience as he struggles towards the light. While Anastasia Steele's concise conscious consideration of her choices provokes our own internal debate about saying no, resisting temptation and remaining true to ourselves. Understanding your strengths and weakness is invalable to your brand and it is often said that your greatest strength is also your greatest weakness. Case in point, Christian Grey's self control has made him financially successful while also manifesting in a darker issue, which he himself recognises and hence his comment about being fifty shades.
Finding your true self and your personal strengths is often the journey exposed as we establish and build our personal brand. Discovering and creating your personal brand is simply revisiting the foundations of your brand, your personal and professional values and establishing a blueprint for your personal brand growth.
"This is all I know, too. Perhaps together we can chart a new course." E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey
Copyright permission: You have permission to use this article by respecting the copyright by publishing the entire article as it is with no changes and by agreeing to include the above reference at the end of the article, or where you quote the author in which case please include the authors name and company name. In the event you wish to use any or all of this content please advise Jump the Q.
The brand Fifty Shades of Grey and all quotes of EL James, Fifty Shades of Grey remain the property of EL James and associated brands.
About the Author:
Rachel Quilty is a Personal Branding Strategist. She is also known as the "Authority" on Personal Branding within Australia.
Rachel is the owner and CEO of Jump the Q Inc, a Personal Brand consulting firm with offices in Brisbane as well as in Las Vegas, in the US.
Rachel is also the Author of the book, 'Brand Yourself: How to design, build and position your personal brand' which is also now listed on Amazon.
Rachel regularly speaks on the importance of personal branding and strategic brand management. She assists her students and clients around the world to leverage their professional profile and expertise to establish their personal brand as the authority and recognised leader within their industry.
Rachel regularly speaks at seminars, conferences and workshops on personal branding, professional image and developing your signature brand. She has presented at Bond University, Gr iffith University Business School, Ernst & Young, Westfield, NSAA; conferences in Las Vegas, Hawaii, Tasmania, Gold Coast and Expos in Brisbane.
Rachel has also been featured in Australia on the Today show as well various national radio programs including 4BC & ABC. She recently featured in the Australian Institute of Management magazine and is regularly featured in popular magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Cleo, Marie Claire and national newspapers include the Courier Mail, Sun Herald and the Weekend Australian.
Rachel made a splash in the USA with a recent interview on Voice America Radio hosted by Personal Finance Guru Jordon E Goodman the author of a dozen best sellers and is a regular on CNN and The View. Rachel also recently spoke in Las Vegas at the Ultimate Joint Venture Boot Camp with some of the most prominent speakers in the world.
Media Contact:
Rachel Quilty
Brand Strategist
Jump the Q
web: www.jumptheq.com.au
Please email questions or story angle and a schedule call for interview.
Brand Yourself at the Oaks Day [Spring Carnival Fashion]
Written on the 8 November 2012 by Rachel Quilty, Personal Brand Strategist
I have become known to many as a business etiquette coach, merely because I love etiquette and to build your celebrity brand it is important to look good and act accordingly. Many of our clients are treated like VIP's simply because they behave like VIP's and know the important rules of engagement; charismatic social etiquette leadership and charming manners.
So imagine my concern when I flick on the news of the recent Race Days Fashions and see so many shocking fashion faux pas. You may be excused if its your first time to the track or you simply didn't know that there are unwritten rules to dressing for the Spring Racing Carnival [ likewise the Winter Carnival] and specific dress codes for special Race Days such as Derby Day, Melbourne Cup and Oaks Day (See Correct Dress Code below.)
To help you develop your signature style and successfully brand yourself at the Spring Racing Carnival as part of the sophisticated race going set I have created the following tips to avoid Race Day Fashion Faux Pas.
Avoiding fashion faux pas is quite simple. There are several fashion blunders that stand out each year. Avoid making the “What Not To Wear” columns by following these simple rules:
Correct Race Day Fashion:
Race Days are one of the most fashionable days imaginable. However, it isn’t necessarily the day you wear your most fashion forward outfit. Race day fashion has its own unique genre; and you should consider purchasing a new fashionable outfit specifically for the races. You will be able to wear it again as a smart evening suit for dinners or a party.If you are a TV personality or celebrity this is the one day you dress uniquely and avoid photos with others who may have similar colours or styles.
Correct Style:
Race day fashion is a generally a classic look or style with a modern or contemporary twist.
Ladies should choose a smart dress or suit. Remember although it may be tempting to wear a dress that you could wear again to a night club, Race day is not a day to wear miniskirts, halter necks, strapless dresses and spaghetti straps. You can never go wrong with a feminine suit or classy tailored dress.
Remember is you are taking a picnic; you will need to be able to get up and sit down without providing people nearby with a personal encounter with your underwear selection or a gaping neckline.
It is fine for ladies to wear trouser suits or a matching top and trousers.
Correct Shoes:
Remember a day at the races can be quiet tiring with a lot of standing around so toe-pinching stilettos might not be the best choice. Consider pumps with a solid or stacked heel or wedges so you don't sink into the ground like our Prime Minister did in India..
Never take off your shoes. Go prepared and purchase some Party Feet products or similar which pad toes and heels. Take First Aid Strips or Band Aids and Paracetamol. Consider purchasing a pair of Scholl’s ballet style flats/ jiffy's..
Correct Tan Shade:
Never goes to the Races with a dark fake tan. If you are pale and are going to get a spray tan get a light to medium tan two or three days prior to the Races. Spray tans should only be a few shades darker than your natural colour to give you a healthy glow. You should not be so neon orange you glow in the dark.
Correct Weather Forecast:
Dress for Race Day weather as best you can. Check the forecast. Remember your hat should never get wet.
It is almost inevitable during Spring Carnival in Victoria, Australia and Race season in the UK that it will rain, yet most people are not prepared. Make sure you take a compact umbrella or even a clear plastic rain coat or poncho.
Even, Spring/Summer race meetings can be quite chilly in the late afternoon so bring a smart pashmina or jacket to avoid looking and feeling cold.
Correct Underwear:
Often Race days can be windy so mind what underwear your wearing. If you are wearing a skirt or dress that could blow up wear a pair of beautiful panties or boy leg pants or a 50’s style pair - not G-strings.
Importantly, Race day is not usually a day for displays of cleavage, even if your cleavage is magnificent. Think sophisticated not super sexy. Unless your seeking the cover of the next Playboy or Penthouse magazine, consider your image and personal brand. It can be incredibly distracting for all concerned if you show excessive cleavage. People do not know where to look and the people who are only too happy to speak to you are only interested in one thing and it isn’t your sparkling conversation.
Just as an afterthought, underwear should definitely be worn. Do not be tempted to go braless or panty free. Purchase the correct style for your dress and ensure it is the correct colour even if you have a plunging neckline or back. There are no excuses.
Correct Headwear:
Wearing a hat to the Races is really one of the most important reasons to go. Of course there's the horse racing but it's really about the hat. We love to wear hats but rarely have the opportunity. Take advantage and go with the re-emerging trend of hat wearing. Choose a hat in the correct style, fabric and size. If you are not a hat wearer consider a beautiful coiffure with a feather or jewellery or a fascinator. Even a simple flower adornment is appropriate. If your headwear is a statement piece dress simply likewise if your hat is simple add some flair to your outfit.
Correct Hat Size:
If you've chosen an extravagant creation, spare a thought for your fellow race-goers - an elaborate hat might block their view of the action.
It is notoriously difficult to socially kiss while wearing a wide-brimmed hat. There is a knack to tilting the head at a suitable angle, but two ladies both in wide brimmed hats should avoid such an 'intimate' greeting.
Also remember that your hat should be in the right proportion and create an overall balanced silhouette.
Correct Handbag:
Traditionally a small clutch, small handbag or evening style handbag is appropriate.
Consider taking a beautiful tote bag also with all your extra items in it such as umbrella, pashmina and other Plan B essentials. Once you have arrived, you can easily place this under the table or hide it in your picnic basket. In you are taking photos place it on the ground with the photographer, they will understand.
Correct Behaviour:
Race day is not a day for excessive drinking; instead it’s a day to enjoy some drinks in a more sophisticated atmosphere and style. Consider Brown Brother’s low alcohol offerings which are perfect for Spring and Summer days when it’s tempting to indulge in a refreshing drink due to the heat. Drink plenty of water.Pace yourself. It's a long afternoon, so break up your forays to the racetrack, the winning post or the winner's enclosure with a chance to sit down, relax and enjoy the refreshments on offer.
Don't over-indulge. You don't want to make an exhibition of yourself.
Correct Eating:
Picnics are often taken at the car before the first race.Or you may go to a restaurant before hand. Or maybe you are dining at the venue in a function room or in one of the many sponsored or corporate tents and marquees along the track. Mind your table manners, even when eating alfresco.
If you are not dining at the track or haven’t booked a brunch at a nearby restaurant then ensure you have a filling breakfast. Eating at the venue can be costly but ensure you eat during the day if you haven't made alternative arrangements.
Australian Race day goers regularly bring a picnic along to the track which is a lovely idea. Always check with the venue event information if that is acceptable. Generally if your ticket is general admission a nice picnic spot can be located on the lawns. Arrive early to choose a good spot. Remember when the races start people will watch near the fence line so this may not be the best location. Consider a rise where you can see over the race goers near the fence and not get trampled it the punters excitement.
Consider keeping it light and packed in a beautiful picnic basket with a nice rubber backed rug to place on the ground. Your picnic should be pre-made sandwiches or breads, cheeses and dips. Keep it simple and disposable. Rolling eskies and mini fridges into the grounds is not appropriate or terribly classy.
Correct Dress Code:
Many Race Day’s have a specific dress code that should be adhered to if you intend to go to the track that particular day. Even if there is not a specific dress code for that specific day there is still an expected Race day attire for both men and women. For example Derby Day's dress code is black and white, Melbourne Cup's is specific Race Day Fashion and Oaks Day is lady like elegance.
Correct Race Day Etiquette:
Generally people you should conduct yourself with finesse and use normal good manners and dining etiquette. However, if you are attending a Race day even if you have not interest in horse racing you should still take a few moments to read the form guide and place a small bet even if it’s just in a sweepstake.
If it sounds like there is a lot of do and don’t well like any prestigious social event there are unwritten and sometime even written rules on what your expected to wear and how you are expected to behave. That’s why we created a Race Day Fashion, Dress Codes and Etiquette Guide to ensure that if you go to a Race Day you can easily and effortlessly look like you belong to the horse race set.
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